Markus M. Mey
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KNOWLEDGE / 01
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Sexuality · Original article

How can I tell the difference between a foot preference and a foot fetish?

What matters is less how much you like feet than the role they play in your arousal. Preference and fetish lie on a spectrum with fluid transitions.

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Relationships & Sexuality · Original article

How do we handle a shoe or boot fetish when a partner does not want to take part?

A partner’s no deserves respect without requiring you to deny your own fetish. This article outlines ways to deal openly and respectfully with differing desires.

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Relationships & Sexuality · Original article

Do I have to keep my partner’s foot fetish secret from friends or family?

A partner’s sexual preferences are private. At the same time, you may seek support for your own questions and feelings without exposing him.

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Sexuality & Boundaries · Original article

How do I respect boundaries and consent when foot- or shoe-related stimuli preoccupy me in public?

Keeping the person behind the feet in view and keeping your attention to yourself helps you respond to foot- or shoe-related stimuli respectfully. What matters is that others are not subjected to that attention without their consent.

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Sexuality · Original article

What Is a Shoe Fetish, and Is It a Distinct Focus?

A shoe fetish can be a distinct focus or overlap with a foot fetish. This article explains its particular dynamics, variety and connection with foot fetishism.

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Relationships & Trust · Original article

Where Are the Boundaries of Trust in Secret Online Behaviour Around Foot or Shoe Fetishes?

Secret online behaviour around foot or shoe fetishes can strain trust. This article explains how couples can clarify boundaries, openness, and concrete agreements together.

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Sexuality and Research · Original article

Is the brain-area or “cross-wiring” explanation for foot fetishism supported by evidence—or is it more of a myth?

Based on current knowledge, the cross-wiring explanation for foot fetishism is a hypothesis, not an established finding. This article considers its origins, its weaknesses, and the state of the research.

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Fetish and roles · Original article

Does a foot fetish automatically make someone dominant or submissive, or does it say something about role preferences?

A foot fetish does not determine anyone's role. This article explains its possible connections with dominance and submission and why roles can change.

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Parenting · Original article

How can parents respond without stigmatizing a child with a strong interest in feet, shoes or socks?

For young children, a strong interest in feet, shoes or socks is almost always curiosity, play and sensory experience. Calmness, clear rules and a listening ear help more than worry or prohibitions.

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Fetishes · Original article

What is the difference between a foot fetish and a shoe fetish?

A foot fetish and a shoe fetish differ in their focus, but they often overlap. A comparison and a few thought experiments can help you identify your own focus.