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Relationships and Sexuality · Original article

How do I handle a foot fetish that causes fear of rejection in dating?

Fear of being rejected because of a foot or shoe fetish is understandable. In my experience, it is important to talk about desires early, honestly and attentively, while giving the other person space for their own view.

Relationships & Sexuality · Original article

What to do when a foot fetish seems to dominate shared intimacy or the relationship?

A foot or shoe fetish can strain a relationship when it dominates shared intimacy. Drawing on his own experience, the author describes ways to bring the fetish back into a balanced partnership.

Sexuality · Original article

Is it a warning sign if arousal is hardly possible without feet or shoes?

This article explains when a strong reliance on feet or shoes for sexual arousal can be a warning sign and places research, diagnostic criteria, and potential support in context.

Fetish knowledge · Original article

Do women and people of other genders also have a foot fetish?

Women can also have a foot or shoe fetish, but pronounced sexual fetishes are much less common among women than among men. There is still very little reliable knowledge about people of other genders.

Sexual Health · Original article

How is fetishistic disorder professionally assessed rather than self-diagnosed?

A professional assessment takes place in a detailed conversation and considers a person’s entire life situation. An unusual sexual preference alone is not a mental disorder.

Sexuality · Original article

How can I deal with foot or shoe thoughts that I experience as intrusive?

Foot or shoe thoughts experienced as intrusive cannot be resolved by suppressing them. This article explains how they can lose their dominance and when psychotherapeutic support is appropriate.

Therapy & Sexuality · Original article

How can I bring up foot-fetish topics in therapy without straining the therapeutic relationship?

How to address foot-fetish topics in therapy directly and professionally, including when shoes or feet trigger you during a session. The article explains pace, boundaries, and how to respond to unsuitable reactions.

Sexuality and Well-being · Original article

What can I do if I experience my shoe fetish as compulsive and shame or secrecy shapes my life?

Shame and secrecy can make a shoe fetish feel compulsive. This article outlines accessible steps for relief and when professional support is necessary.

Sexual Health · Original article

Is it OCD, fetishism, or something else—and how can I get it assessed?

Fetishes, obsessive thoughts, and compulsive sexual behaviour can seem similar, but they differ in how they are experienced, their consequences, and their treatment. A professional assessment can help if you are unsure.

Relationships and Sexuality · Original article

What can I do if I feel self-conscious about my feet and my partner has a foot fetish?

Feeling insecure about your own feet is understandable when your partner has a foot fetish. Drawing on personal experience, this article explains how fantasy, boundaries, and open conversations can contribute to greater security.