Markus M. Mey
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KNOWLEDGE / 01
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Youth & Sexuality · Original article

Is a preference for feet in young people automatically a sign of a disorder?

A preference for feet or shoes in young people is not automatically a sign of a disorder. What matters is whether it causes severe distress or harms other people.

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Relationships and sexuality · Original article

Can a foot or shoe fetish fit with asexuality in a relationship?

A foot or shoe fetish and asexuality can fit together in a relationship when needs, boundaries and possible paths are discussed openly and without pressure. Mutual respect and a solution that feels right for both people are crucial.

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Relationships and Sexuality · Original article

How can I support my partner when he is ashamed of having a foot fetish?

Shame around a foot or shoe fetish can be met with non-judgmental listening and honest boundaries. This article explains what helps in conversation and when additional support may be useful.

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Relationships and Sexuality · Original article

How do I deal with it when my partner has a foot fetish but I myself have a strong aversion to feet?

A strong aversion to feet and a partner’s foot fetish do not rule out a respectful relationship. Voluntary boundaries and mutual respect are what matter.

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Sexuality & Relationships · Original article

What can I do if my partner does not want to take part in my foot fetish?

Take her no seriously, react calmly in the moment, and later try to understand quietly what lies behind it. A no is not a basis for negotiation.

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Relationships and sexuality · Original article

Is My Partner Interested in Me—or Mainly in Shoes or Boots?

With a shoe fetish, the woman wearing the shoes or boots is often central, rather than the object alone. This article explains how female partners can assess this in their relationship and address their needs.

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Relationships & Fetishes · Original article

What can I do if my partner mocks or shames me for my foot fetish?

Mockery of a foot fetish can hurt and damage trust. This article shows both sides how to address uncertainty, boundaries and respect in conversation.

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Relationships & Sexuality · Original article

How do I deal with feeling physically criticised by my partner’s foot fetish?

Remarks about feet can feel like criticism even when they are meant as a wish. The key is to name judgements clearly and set your own boundaries.

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Relationships & Sexuality · Original article

How can I bring up my foot fetish when a previous disclosure led to humiliation or a loss of trust?

After being humiliated, caution is justified, but it does not have to mean never speaking about a fetish again. Trust can be assessed gradually while privacy and boundaries are protected.

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Relationships & Sexuality · Original article

What can I do if I find my partner’s foot preference disgusting or distressing?

You are allowed to reject your partner’s foot preference. What matters is expressing your reaction and boundaries as your own feelings rather than devaluing them as a person.